When Experiences Change What Matters Most

I rarely post anything personal—but the holidays have a way of changing things.

This time of year tends to do that. The routines slow down (at least a little). The noise fades. And suddenly, we’re more aware of what we’re carrying, what we’ve gained, and what looks different than it used to.

For most of my life, I’ve loved the traditional sights and sounds of the holiday season—the twinkly lights, the traditions passed down, the music that somehow starts earlier every year.

I still enjoy all of that.

But now, the most meaningful parts of the season look and sound a little different.

Some of you know my one and only child is stationed overseas. It’s been a gift to have him home for the holidays this year—and last.

Now, instead of looking forward to seeing the tree lit up and covered in ornaments, I look forward to seeing his boots in his room.

Instead of holiday playlists or watching Elf for the millionth time, my favorite sounds are his guitars coming from down the hall and college football bowl games with my whole world sitting on the same sofa.

Two years ago, I couldn’t have predicted how much my definition of “the holidays” would change. But here I am—grateful for every moment of a very different experience.

And it’s reminded me of something important.

Experiences Don’t Just Happen to Us—They Shape Us

Experiences don’t just change how we feel. They quietly shift how we see the world.

They recalibrate our priorities. They influence what we protect, pursue, and appreciate.

Often, it’s not the big milestones that change us most. It’s the subtle ones. The moments we didn’t plan for. The seasons that force us to redefine what “enough” looks like.

And when we don’t stop to reflect on them, we miss the chance to learn from them.

Take A Moment to Pause and Reflect

As the year comes to a close, I want to invite you to pause—not to judge the year or rush to define next year's goals (that comes next)—but simply to reflect.

Consider these questions:

• What experience this past year quietly shifted your perspective?

• What do you value differently now than you did a year ago?

• What moment—big or small—deserves to be acknowledged or celebrated?

• What did this year teach you about what truly matters to you?

  
  

Reflection isn’t about dwelling in the past. It’s about understanding how you’ve grown—and using that clarity to move forward with intention.

Celebrate What Matters

I know, not every experience is easy. Not every season is joyful. And sometimes the silver lining is no where to be found.

But, give yourself the time and permission to define the moments that matter to you the most. The ones that brought you joy and a sense of accomplishments. The ones that were tough, but you pushed through and gained invaluable lessons you couldn't have learned without the challenges.

Celebrate the clarity gained. Honor the change. Let those experiences inform how you show up next.

Because perspective is powerful—and the more aware we are of what shaped it, the more aligned our next steps can be.